Setting Up Your Own Case File

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Starting Up Your Own Self Detective Agency
Part 3 - Setting Up Your Own Case File



Okay, so where would you like to start?
What areas of yourself and your life would you like to investigate? Or are you happy to work your way through SD and see where you end up?
Below are some suggestions for starting up your own case file.
  1. Finding out who I am
  2. Telling my story
  3. Understanding my relationship with myself
  4. Working out my relationships with others
  5. Piecing together my past
  6. Working on my present-day self
  7. Exploring my hopes and fears
  8. Understanding my values and beliefs
  9. Unpicking shame, guilt and blame
  10. Resolving internal and external conflicts
  11. Understanding my strengths and limitations
  12. Getting in touch with my emotional side
  13. Sorting out my thoughts
  14. Reducing my distress
  15. Experimenting with my identity and my roles
  16. Tapping in to my creative side
  17. Improving my coping strategies
  18. Working through my grief and my losses
  19. Understanding power and control
  20. Overcoming habits
  21. Starting my life again
  22. Understanding the very essence of myself
  23. Learning to like myself
  24. Making changes in my life
  25. Improving my well-being
  26. All of the above
    If you know where you would like to focus your attention first, and in which order, please make a note of it here:
    I will start to work on…

    Setting goals

    It might be useful when embarking on SD to think about where you’d like to end up, but it isn’t essential.
    (i) If you embark on a journey without knowing where you want to go, you may get lost or lose your way. Alternatively, you may discover so much more by not taking a direct route from A to B.
    (ii) If you undertake a case with a clear finishing line, you may find that it isn’t the ending that you wanted or hoped for, or that you’re unable to solve the case. There again, it might be exactly what you wanted.
    (iii) Some people will never find a clear beginning or an ending – there will just be experiences along the way.
    (iv) If you do get to your goal, what happens next? Do you rest on your laurels? Do you set yourself another goal?
    What comes to mind when you think about goals (or indeed aims or targets)?
    If you are happy to make a list of goals, how about you start right here, right now?

    Goals
    How realistic or achievable do you think these goals are?
    If you want to set a goal but you are finding it hard to make a start, you may want to come up with some statements that could then prompt you in the right direction.

    For example:

    I would like to
    I need to
    I would like        to happen by        
    I want to be
    I want to improve my
    I want to reduce my
    I want to understand
    In the short term I need to
    I want to understand
    In the medium term I need to
    I want to understand
    In the long term I need to
    Asking yourself certain questions might also help get you going. Sometimes the answer to a question can be the goal in itself.

    For example:

    Who am I?
    What do I want?
    Where do I want to go?
    What stops me from doing the things I want to do?

    The miracle question

    Created by Insoo Kim Berg

    Suppose tonight, while you’re sleeping, a miracle takes place: the problems you had before you went to bed have now all been solved.

    However, because you’re asleep, you don't know that the miracle has taken place.
    Q: When you wake up in the morning, how will you know that a profound change has taken place?
    Q: How would you notice that your life is suddenly better?
    Q: How would other people notice the change?
    The miracle question is a good way of discovering your goals/aims. It’s about looking at the end point of the journey first, rather than the beginning.

    Travelling from B to A

    Working in reverse could also involve picking a date in the future when you’ve reached your imagined goal, then travelling back in time, noting what happened along the way that facilitated the changes.

    Dates in reverse What happened?

    A message from your future self

    Imagine receiving a letter from your future self with detailed instructions on how to get from here to there. What does it say?

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