Clues from our childhood
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Part 4 - Clues from our childhood

The next two sections look at ways in which our early experiences of relationships shape those in our adulthood, as well as our general well-being. We will look at three concepts: attachment theory, adverse childhood experiences (ACE) and mentalization. These concepts are inter-linked, and all of them apply to ourselves and the people in our lives. At the end of this section we’ll look at some of the things people can do to recover from turbulent childhoods.
They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.
Philip Larkin, This Be The Verse
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.
Philip Larkin, This Be The Verse